Bundle of unconditional love

Chris Rock jokes that a father’s only job is to make sure his daughter stays off the stripper pole. I chuckle every time I hear the commercial. It’s so true, no parent wants their daughter to strip for a living. But if she does I’m sure they’d find a way to deal with it. It’s called unconditional love.

On December 30, 2013 I birth a seven pound three ounce bundle of unconditional love. I’ve loved before, but never like this. My daughter brings me so much joy. Everyday with her is a memory, experience and lesson. And no day has been the same.

When I learned she was growing inside of me it scared me. I wanted to protect her, keep her safe, make sure she made it here with ten fingers and toes and all her organs functioning right.

Mission accomplished at 1:06 p.m.

Then came more fear.

What scared me most was failing her as a mom. I still pray that I’m doing right by her. I often wonder how can I give her what I never had. Then just as fast I whisper “Lord help me.”

Help me to show her unconditional love, for her to realize she’s beautiful, intelligent, fearless, comical, bold and inquisitive. Help me to protect her esteem and never doubt the potential she has. Help me to show her how much I love her even in times she may disappoint me in the future.

Not to omit my husband, because he’s definitely in this with me. But they have their bond and we have ours. She equally a daddy’s girl as she is a mama’s girl.

I don’t have all the answers, I’m still learning as a mom. What I do know is that she’s my best teacher.

Happy 3rd birthday to my little best friend. Mommy, Mom, Mama loves you.

Connecting couples is matchmaker’s passion

Over 48 couples, two of whom are engaged, have found love thanks to the Middle Class Matchmaker.
Shae Primus, of Atlanta, is a certified matchmaker and dating coach who started her business last year to help friends find love.

Middle Class Matchmaker offers dating coaching, matchmaking and singles events.
There are close to 70,000 singles on the site http://www.middleclassmatch.com
“I want to be able to help more people find love,” Primus said. “Matchmaking is more expensive because it requires my time. With a dating site coaching and matching the client, singles can search for themselves. It’s affordable for them and more people can find the love they deserve,” she said.
Primus said the key to finding someone you’re compatible with is being open to what you’re looking for and dropping “the list.”
“We don’t know the package of the love of our lives so we need to be open to receiving love,” she said.
Primus said she truly feels God called her to connect couples.
“I can’t create love or make it happen,” she said. God does that, all He requires is an open heart.”

Catch Conversations with Cupid Radio Show with Shae Primus on Thursdays from 6 to 8 p.m. on http://www.instinctradio.net. Watch or listen live. You can also call in or text at 478-569-6474

Primus’ site http://www.middleclassmatch.com is only $10 a month with a 85 percent success rate. She said people who commit to three months has a 99 percent success rate.
Her other site http://www.middleclassmatchmaker.com offers Matchmaking and Dating Coaching starting at $500 which includes a photo shoot, emotional wellness check with a licensed therapist, relationship readiness assessment, feedback on the assessment and recommendation for dating coaching or matchmaking.
Dating Coaching packages start at $1,500 for three months (depending on assessment results) matchmaking packages start at $1,500 for three months minimum.
Primus is currently preparing for the second annual The Masquerade Match on Saturday, Oct. 29. from 7 to 10 p.m. tickets are available at http://masqueradematch2.eventbrite.com.

To learn more about Primus, upcoming events and dating visit the website. Also be sure to check her out on social media.

Facebook: Shae Middleclassmatchmaker
Instagram: @MiddleClassMatchmaker
Twitter: MiddleClassMatchmakr @lprimus

Review: “The Love That Woke My Heart”

Whether it was a date night with your love, girls night with your besties or group outing with church members. You were in for a treat at Saturday night’s stage play “The Love That Woke My Heart.”

Drama, comedy, realness, friendship, family, faith and of course love were all themes throughout the nearly three hour play (which started on time, by the way) at the historic Wink Theatre in downtown Dalton, Ga.

Detroit native, Kenyatta Burse, who recently made Dalton her home clearly put her heart and soul into the play. Wearing many hats, Burse wrote, produced, directed and even lent her amazing acting and singing gifts to the play. The play featured five original songs by Burse and one co-written with LaV Davis.

Above: Kenyatta Burse

Behind every great woman are even greater men and women, the cast of the play, many first timers could easily be seen on your favorite television shows. They were that good.

Let’s start with the three women whom the play is built around. LaSasha (Kenyatta Burse), Jada (Venus Rice) and Konstance (Michele Satcher).
Sasha’s single hard working entrepreneur not really looking to mingle, that’s until she meets Shaun (Joseph Jennings) and all of that changes. They fall head over heels in love and he make plans to head down the aisle, but something (or someone) halts those plans.
Jada, is a hopeless romantic, she loves her husband Tim (Marcus Linder) and wants their marriage to work. However it’s hard to make it work when there is one, two maybe three additional people in the way.

Above: Jada plays no games when it comes to her man. Don’t move Tressa.

Next is Konstance, THE FIRST BLACK PARTNER AT A MAJOR LAW FIRM as she loves to remind everyone. Konnie, as her friends calls her has no time for anything (unless it’s a glass of red wine) or anybody, until she meets Donnell (Horace Burse).

Above: Three is a crowd. Who will chose Donnell? Konstance or the “baby mama?”

Take those three couples and add the realness of Jason (Damon “Big Boi” Gordon), the charm of Keith (Shurah White), messiness of Tresse (Jasmine Madden), cuteness of Katalaya (Danika Morton) , thugness of J-Roc (Kawan Powell), innocence of Nuna (Jennifer McLaurin), smarts of the Detective (Trenton O’Neal), clueless of Jasmine (Linnette Socorro-Perez) hood Shay (Alexis Carmichael), lies of Alana (Keisha Greenwade), desperation of Akeelah (Lisa Jackson) boldness of Aaron (Gene Jackson),patience of Greyland (Adrian Storey) and comedy of Selina (Dionne Rice Powell) and Chase (Vonta Macon) and you have a hit stage play, “The Love That Woke My Heart.”

Above: Some of the talented crew backstage.

Here is what people are saying about the play…

Congratulations to all of you for a job well done! Especially to the CEO of Burse Productions: Kenyatta”Keke” Burse! Love you all and God bless. Pastor Pat Gross

I truly enjoyed it, you guys are definitely the bomb! I’m waiting in anticipation for the next play! Great job! Terri Betton

Play was outstanding, awesome cast, hats off to all….I laughed and truly enjoyed myself. Joanne Ellington

It was really great to see the turnout for the play in Dalton put on by Burse Productions. The play was good and the acting and singing was really good!

Congrats to the cast of the stage play “The Love That Woke My Heart” great job guys. Dennedy Wright

Giving thanks: Dalton and surrounding counties…THANK YOU! Your support at the Wink Theatre was unbelievable. I’m still in awe. Continue to be a blessing to your/our community and watch God change things! Debbie Madden
If you missed the play no worries. Burse Productions will have copies soon available for purchase. Contact them at (313) 676-8203.

Marquise and his many ties

To a man who wears many ties:

The tie of fatherhood, he calls them his “Trilogy” Marquise Jr., Madison and Mason.
The tie of pastor-ship, not only does he bless the pulpit of Central Metropolitan CME in Jacksonville, Fl. every Sunday, but he’s available 24-7 to his members when needed.
The tie of son, If there were an almost perfect child Charlotte, Rick and Ron has one. But since no one is perfect, we’ll settle for “almost perfect.”
The tie of big brother, Racheatu, Allen, Eugene, Malik,and Rainey has a great leader to look up to.
The tie of Shaka’s Favorite Cousin, that’s a special tie. You’ve always had my back and I’ll always have yours. Point, blank, period. #THEE end.com
The tie of nephew, friend, fraternity brother grandson, and cousin.
For all the ties you wear and for the blessing you are in all of our lives we say thank you and HAPPY 35TH BIRTHDAY!

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May God continue to bless you abundantly.

Daddy’s Home

Today I read that superstar Usher received primary custody of his two sons with ex-wife Tameka Foster Raymond.

Was I surprised? No, not really!

Actually I’ve been following the case and kind of wished the judge would continue to allow joint custody between the two parents.

In a perfect world the two adults should have worked out their issues without a court of law. I thought after the death of Tameka’s son from her first marriage to Ryan Glover they would stop the custody case, *shrugs*.

I only know what I read on mainstream news sites and blogs (which I read for entertainment purposes only) I’m reading comments on social media sites (also for entertainment purposes) that Usher won because he has money. That statement alone bothers me.

I can remember going through a custody case with my mom and dad. My parents were never married, after they spilt up when I was about four or five mama and I moved back to her hometown of Alabama and daddy stayed in Detroit. I didn’t see my dad for one year straight. Shortly after daddy moved to Atlanta and I saw him often.

My mama soon got married and had other kids, my two brothers and two sisters, another sister came years later. No lie, times were very hard, things were out of control and I was growing up too fast, when all I wanted to do was be a child.

Long story short, my dad suggested to my mama numerous times that I should come live with him, she always said not right now. I can’t blame her; no mom really wants to be without all their kids. Eventually things got worse, and if anyone knew my dad he was the nicest man ever, but once he got fed up it was a wrap.

One day he got fed up and filed for custody. It wasn’t a long drawn out battle, we went to court the day after my 13^th birthday and that same day he was granted temporary custody. Six months later, he was granted full custody.Daddy and I with my first cousin/brother Mikal, Thanksgiving 92, my first in Atlanta

I was happy and sad at the same time. Happy for obvious reasons, but sad because my mama was hurt, I was leaving my sisters, who I had a close bond with, my school, friends and cousins, but it was for the best. No one believed my dad would win custody, he was single (with the exception of a long time girlfriend), he was in and out the hospital with Sickle Cell and he was a man. Daughters don’t live with daddies alone, but I did.

Nothing against my mom, but she needed to be forced to do what I’m sure she wanted to do, but just didn’t have the strength to do and that was give me a better life. Looking back, that decision saved our relationship. I grew and I learned to forgive.

There were lots of things I experienced that I only share when it can benefit others. I wasn’t sexually abused or physically abused for that matter, but the judge felt that I needed healing and removing me from that situation would do that.

I adore my mama and as I got older understood her more. I’m forever in debt to my father, may his soul rest in peace, words cannot describe what he did for me.

Maybe one day Tameka can see that this decision was best for her kids, hopefully she will realize that when fathers fight for their kids, it really has nothing to do with the mother, but everything to do with his love for the child.

Usher and with sons Usher V and Naviyd

Valentine’s Day and Singles

Sunday afternoon in church our choir director lined all the kids up and allowed them to give Valentine Day Shout Outs to their special someone.
I thought it was the sweetest thing to hear the children express their love for mama, daddy, and grandparents. Afterward, the adults did the same, of course I shouted out my husband of three months.
When I sat down I remember not too long ago I had no valentine to shout out, had that been the case this year I would’ve walked right to the front and wished myself a Happy Valentine’s Day. Shoot, ain’t no shame in my game, never has been.
For the past few days, I’ve noticed a few single associates feeling less than stellar because of the approaching “love day.”
At the same time, I’ve noticed women who complain about their significant others most of the year brag about their anticipation to the big day.
Ha! Really?
I don’t understand the purpose of being treated like a queen one day of the year and a pauper the rest of the year. I wish with all my heart that women would recognized their worth and men would respect it.
This is not a male bashing piece, because fact of the matter is most men gives two flips about the day. However some do, they will never admit it though. Hehehe
I remember in my single days (and there were a lot) I simply made the most out of the overrated holiday. Oh wait, it’s not a holiday! Shoot could’ve fooled me. Hallmark makes a killing on cards, chocolate is consumed and lots of bears are stuffed, upon stuffed, upon stuffed. Poor bears!
Anywho, I’m going to share some of the things I did as a single woman on V-Day. After reading this I don’t want anyone lying around eating chocolates, watching movies, feeling sad. I already did that for yall one year; I think it was 2002 or somewhere round there. Know your worth and be your own valentine!

Shaka’s Suggestions of what to do if you’re single on V-Day!

1. Plan a date with your girlfriends, exchange cards, enjoy dinner and girl talk!
2. Have a movie night with your girlfriends, snacks, martinis and movies of THE finest men in Hollywood.
3. Work extra hours; you’ll be so tired you’ll forget all about the day.
4. Mr. Moscato is always available. Chill and Enjoy!
5. Have a co-ed dinner party, don’t get it twisted, there are some single men who get down in the dumps too.
6. Offer to baby-sit for friends that have plans. Hello! Extra money!
7. If you have children do something fun with them. Don’t let them think a mate is needed to be happy.
8. Some churches have events; find out if one is near you.
9. Online shop, treat yourself to something you’ve been holding off on buying.
10. Very important! The day after all the candy goes on sale. Plan to hit the stores and buy your favs! (Get there early because it’s a tradition that I still do)

This piece is dedicated to all the single ladies! All the single ladies! (In my best Beyonce voice)

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